Trusting the Timeline of Your Life

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted on here, and for good reason. Life has been pretty intense the past couple of months, and now that the dust has settled a bit, I finally have the space to process everything that’s happened.

In June, I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant (at 40), and then a few weeks later, I miscarried.

I’m healing really well physically, but during this time, a flood of thoughts and emotions entered my mind.

Miscarriages are more common for women who become pregnant later in life.

If I try again, what are the chances I’ll have a healthy pregnancy?

Do I really want kids?

Do I want to put my body through this?

Can I handle it?

I wish I had met Nick earlier in life.

I wish I had started planning for pregnancy earlier in life.

Am I doomed?

Gosh, it is such a miracle that women can create life inside of their own bodies.

My body is amazing.

Nothing in life is certain, but I’ll always regret not trying.

I can do hard things.

…and on and on and on.

The thoughts just kept coming. Some stayed for a few minutes. Others lingered for days. And then another one would take its place.

As I reflected on everything, I realized that underneath all of those thoughts was something much deeper.

I wished life had unfolded on my timeline.

I'm not a particularly religious person (I'd consider myself more spiritual), but when I peel back the layers, I always come back to something that brings me peace.

There are parts of life we simply can't control. Timing seems to be one of them.

We can influence our lives for sure. We can make decisions. We can prepare. But we can't control exactly when we meet someone, when opportunities arrive, or how every chapter unfolds.

Oddly enough... accepting that has brought me a lot of peace.

Yes, I could have tried for kids earlier in life, but it might not have been with Nick.

Yes, I wish I had met Nick earlier in life, but that's just not how my life unfolded.

I met him after years of dating, heartbreak, disappointment, healing, learning more about myself, and becoming the person I needed to become to meet the person I’d want to build my life with.

Looking back, I can see how each chapter prepared me for the next.

If I hadn't experienced all of those dating experiences, I probably wouldn't have asked so many questions, sought out dating coaching, or felt inspired to create The Dating Reset.

Ironically, creating the workbook that helped me reset my own approach to dating eventually helped lead me to Nick.

The same thing happened with my health.

If I hadn't struggled with candida and my own health challenges, I probably never would've discovered holistic healing, nervous system and somatic work, or eventually enrolled in the Integrative Wellness Academy's Somatic Practitioner Certification.

Those experiences didn't just change my health.

They changed the way I move through life, and most importantly, the different chapters within my life.

The tools I learned from IWA have become some of the very same tools I've leaned on during this recent season of uncertainty. Not because they magically take away grief or answer impossible questions, but because they help me stay grounded while life unfolds.

It's actually made me appreciate The Dating Reset and the digital tools I've created even more. Every one of them came from a season where I was trying to navigate something difficult in my own life. I didn't create them because I thought they would sell—I created them because I needed them first. Looking back, that's still how I hope to create: from lived experience.

Looking back, I can see how interconnected it all is.

Not because I believe everything happens for a reason. ( I don’t)

There are experiences I would never choose, and losses that will always feel painful.

But I do believe that every chapter and every season has the potential to shape us.

We don't get to control the timeline of our lives. But we do get to decide how we'll show up while our lives are unfolding.

That shift has brought me a tremendous amount of peace.

So whatever you're going through...

Maybe you're struggling with your career.

Maybe you're longing to meet your person.

Maybe you're hoping to start a family and wondering if time is running out.

Maybe you're healing from something difficult.

Or maybe you're simply waiting for life to feel like it's finally beginning.

I hope this reminds you to be gentle with yourself. Keep showing up. Keep learning. Keep taking care of yourself.

One day you may look back and realize that while life didn't unfold according to your timeline...

But it prepared you for the next chapter.

Nice to meet you!

Hi there! I’m Lisa and I am an Integrative Somatic Practitioner and Holistic Esthetician. I love supporting people on their healing journeys through somatic coaching/somatic work integrated with holistic somatic facials. I help people to get in a good energetic state and frequency so they can feel inspired, recharged, excited and motivated to take action in their lives and truly start creating and living their dream lives.

I have various programs to support you in your healing journey so that you can get relief from your symptoms, chronic pain, stress, overwhelm, trauma and other mental/emotional/physical issues holding you back from living your fullest life. My innovative approach of integrating somatic work into facial treatments is unique in this industry, and demonstrates my passion and commitment to offering holistic care to my clients.

I believe that you have the power to shift things physiologically (at the body level) to also get relief in the mind, heart, and spirit.